Here’s the thing about pregnancy, it brings out the curiosity in everyone. But twins…well, that phenomena seems to ignite a whole new level of wide-eyed cat curiosity.
And curiosity can make for some not-so-PC questions. I don’t think people are trying to be rude, but it can be frustrating when people make far-reaching assumptions. Trust me, I’m as shocked as the next person that I’m having twins. Never in a million years did I think I’d have twins. In fact, twins wasn’t even a though that crossed my mind, it was never an inkling of a possibility, when I found out I had to have the tech explain it to me five different ways before I understood what she was saying. It just wasn’t possible.
Here are the two most common misconceptions:
- You took fertility treatments and/or were doing IUI/IVF to help you conceive
- It runs in your family
Here’s an interesting fact about multiples. There is no evidence to support a twin “gene”. In other words, twins don’t run in families. When we found out I immediately asked my boyfriend if he had twins in his family. My family does not and I, like most, assumed that it runs in families. But, the truth is that twins are almost always completely random. There are, of course, a few factors that can increase the chance of twins. For example, identical twins do show some genetic link to the father, but this is not always the case. Ours are fraternal.
Older woman tend to have a greater chance of twin births because they are more likely to hyper-ovulate, releasing an egg from both follicles. Hyper-ovulation is the only genetic trait proven to pass between a family on the mother’s side. So, if your mother or grandmother hyper-ovulate, chances are high that you may as well. Older woman also show higher occurrences of fertility treatments, which can increase the chance of multiples.
So, what’s the deal with our twins. Well, I’m 31, which could be considered an “older” first-time mom. Although I was trying to conceive through vaginal insemination before I met Jeremiah, I never did an IUI or IVF and was never taking any fertility treatments to aid in conception. I do hyper-ovulate, a phenomena I was unaware of until I found out I was having twins; chances are that another woman in my family does as well, though none of them are aware. So, while my hyper-ovulation did cause me to produce two eggs, giving us a chance at twins, it’s still quite a phenomena that both of these eggs were fertilized. Jeremiah likes to “blame” me, but I think it’s just as much his “fault” for being so virile 🙂
When you think of all the things that had to go right in order for us to conceive twins, it’s pretty incredible.